Am I Helping or Hurting My Community?

by harry on May 31, 2013

My goal is to provide you and me  with the ideal environment and resources for us to make your impact on the world (or at the very least my and your worlds).

So, Harry (you may ask), did you know that the people around you shape who you are?

Of course you do. If you don’t check out this article on  “recidivism”.
Here is a quote from that website: “Sixty-seven percent of former inmates released from state prisons in 1994 committed at least one serious new crime within the following three years.”

Now why do you think 67% of inmates who get out of state prisons (in 1994) are rearrested? Well, let me say that, while this is a complex issue, the prisoners I talk to through the Bill Glass Prison Ministry continue to tell me that it is the people they hang around.

Am I helping friends? So I ask them what are you going to do? They have all said something like, “find new friends.”

This is what I wrote about yesterday. If someone is bringing me down, I need to find a new friend. Just don’t call or text that person again and they will slowly fade out.

But let me flip that coin and ask this question:

What kind of Friend am I? Be honest Harry.

I know that my friends, family, and associates (my community) are either helping me or hurting my success. (I guess a few are neutral.) So, what kind of friend am I? Am I helping my community or am I hurting my community?

Am I helping my friend lose 20 pounds, work out at the YMCA, or operate your online business? Am I a support network that helps my friends make their dreams possible?  Am I willing to hold my friends feet while he does sit ups?

Give some real honest thought to my surroundings…
Look around me now, right now. Think about who I have spent the most time with in the past few days – or maybe a week. Maybe even the past year or two, or maybe even the last decade.

When was the last time I ate with a group of people that I am fully opened up to – and felt comfortable being who I really are? (Now, this is difficult by itself for us guys.)

When was the last time I hung out with friends over coffee, beer or tea and listen to a friend share his latest crazy idea? Did I hear them respond with thoughts of appreciation for my encouragement and share his sadness for my ridicule of his ‘ridiculous’ plan?
What about the last time I run or workout with someone in my community? Did they leave me buzzing with inspiration, ideas and possibility of their online business?

Really think about the result of your interactions with your community, Harry. How often do you inspire others?
How often am I really supporting, accepting, encouraging, inspiring, invigorating, or empowering to the folks that I hang with?
When was the last time my friend or brother’s idea was ridiculed, laughed at, mocked or scorned by ME?

Stop for a minute and think about the network of people I have in my life. Think about those people that I get to interact with on a day-to-day basis. Be honest, Harry.

Is this the way I want to live?

Am I proud of my community and how I support them?

Am I allowing my friends, family, and associates to have the power, influence, or online business they want to have?
Getting this right will change everything. It starts with recognizing where I am, who I am helping you, and who I want to be.

I cannot change anyone else but me. I commit to making some changes in my community my being a better friend. Lifting my community up rather than letting them down. I commit today.

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My goal is to provide you  (and me) with the ideal environment and resources for you to make your impact on the world.  

So, did you know that the people around us shape who we are?

Of course you did.  You know that your friends, family, and associates (your community) will either help you to change the world or cause the world to collapse on your shoulders.

In order to do anything meaningful such as lose 20 pounds, work out at the YMCA, or operate your online business you are capable of doing, you must have a support network that helps make it possible.

So I want to challenge you to ask the most difficult question anyone can ask themselves: Are Your Family and Friends Helping or Hurting You?
Are your friends encouraging you?

 Give some real honest thought to your surroundings…

Look around you now, right now. Think about who you have spent the most time with in the past few days – or maybe a week.  Maybe even the past year or two, or maybe even the last decade.

When was the last time you had ate with a group of people you fully opened up to – and felt comfortable being who you really are?  (Now, this is difficult by itself for us guys.)

When was the last time you hung out with friends over coffee, beer or tea (for you sophisticated guys) and shared your latest crazy idea?  Did you hear them respond with thoughts of encouragement and share their own ‘ridiculous’ plans?

What about the last time you run or workout with someone in your community?  Did they leave you buzzing with inspiration, ideas and possibility of your online business?

Really think about the result of your interactions with your community. How often are you inspired?

How often do you feel really supported, accepted, encouraged, inspired, invigorated, or empowered by the folks that you hang with?

Do you want to think about the other side of this coin?.

When was the last time your idea was ridiculed, laughed at, mocked or scorned by the people around you? Maybe you didn’t even bring the idea up because you feared how the people around you would react.  Which is worse?  Hearing the ridicule or fear of hearing the ridicule?

Stop for a minute and think about the network of people you have in your life.  Think about those people that you get to interact with on a day-to-day basis. Be honest.

Is this the way you want to live?  Are you proud of your community and how the support you?

Are your friends, family, associates and your surroundings allowing you to have the power, influence, or online business you want to have? Or are they keeping your business or influence from having a chance at happening in the first place?

Getting this right will change everything.  It starts with recognizing where you are, who is helping you, and what you want.

Commit to making some changes in your community, commit today.

(One more commitment – committ to read tomorrow’s post!)

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